Dilemma + Chimamanda's 'The Things Around Your Neck' ~ lindaikeji32

250 years of Guinness
250 Guests
A night of Greatness
Dresscode: Black with a touch of gold
Date: Sat. 18th July 09
Venue: Jade Palace, V/I

A grand event, and I am one of the 250 special guests. Ha! I'm becoming a VIP! It's not an easy something oh! :-). Watch this space for what yours truly will be wearing to the event!

Dilemma
Ok, to today's post, I got a very emotional email from a reader of this blog who says she needs help desperately. And after reading her mail, I was bewildered. I've heard a lot of issues about relationships and marriages but I've never heard of anything like this before.

It's so complicated I don't know how to explain it but I'll try.

She's a newly wed, she got married sometime this year, and she's currently faced with a huge problem: She says she can't stand her husband making love to her. She says everytime he's on top of her, she feels like throwing up. She says the only way she gets through love making with him is to completely disconnect herself from the act; and to get through the sex, she keeps telling herself, this is my husband making love to me...not a stranger, not a rapist, not a spiritualist, but my husband!

She says she's not frigid because she's had other lovers in the past and nothing like that ever happened with them. Even when she was dating her husband, it didn't happened with him, so she doesn't understand why it's happening now that they are married. She says she loves him and does not understand why she can't stand making love with him.

Ok, like I said, I've never heard anything like this before so I don't even know the first thing to say to her. I'm hoping there's someone out there with an answer for her. I'm thinking it's psychological...what do you guys think?

Let's move on to something else...
Chimamanda Adichie's 'The Things Around Your Neck'
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie was at the Silverbird Galleria, Lagos, on Saturday, July 11th 2009 to promote her new book, The Thing Around Your Neck. Published locally by Farafina Books, The Thing Around Your Neck is a collection of short stories exploring the ties that bind men and women, parents and children, Africa and the United States. Searing and profound, suffused with beauty, sorrow, and longing, these stories map, with Adichie’s signature wisdom, the collision of cultures and the deeply human struggle to reconcile them.

Award-winning author of Purple Hibiscus and Half of a Yellow Sun, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has been described as “the 21st century daughter of Chinua Achebe”. The author entertained questions from the crowd about her book, writing and the burden of being slowly identified as Chinua Achebe’s heir(ess).

The event also marked the launch of Farafina Week, a week-long celebration of Farafina Books, offering the best in contemporary African literature, at the Silverbird Lifestyle Store.